‘He may not be perfect but he’s my dad’
This weekend we will celebrate fathers day I know it can be a difficult time for some, for single parent families where mum’s do an amazing job of being both parents I honour you, or where our fathers have been cruel, abusive, absent I know its difficult time. Yet I don’t want to miss the opportunity to honour dads. I’m not writing this from having a perfect dad. My dad wasn’t near perfect. Yet I have been able to forgive him, and love him deeply.
Take a few moments to think about your father. Just take a moment to ponder on what that man has contributed to your life. Think about his influence on you, his investment in you, his insights to you. Picture his face, the lines that are now permanently etched in your mind. Listen again to the echo of his voice, that infectious laugh, those unique expressions that emerge through the treasure of memory. Feel his hands wrapped around yours, his strong, secure arm across your shoulders. Remember his grip that once spoke of a balanced mixture of gentleness and determination, compassion and manhood. Remember the power of his words. Not only his, “I understand,” but also his, “Now its time to sort this!”
Remember his walk. I could spot my dad walking down the long street from a good distance away there was just something about his walk. For your dad you may remember something else. His arms swinging and back arched, head tilted just so. Or best of all, take time to recall how he modeled character. As you read this, take a moment to remind yourself of just one or two choice moments in your past when he stood alone, when he stood by you, when he stood against insurmountable odds, when he provided that shelter in your time of storm. When he protected you from the bitter blast of life’s harsh consequences. When he chose to say, “I forgive you” instead of, “You ought to be ashamed!” What wonderful memories!
With such a great legacy which time can never erase, give God thanks. Thank the Giver of every good and perfect gift for the meaningful investment your dad has sown into your life and character, the wholesome habits he has woven into the fabric of your flesh.
Whilst you are pondering in the treasure chest of memories, take a look at what the proverbs say about a righteous man who walks in integrity:
“How blessed are his sons [and daughters] after him.” (Proverbs 20:7)
We are so blessed! We are beneficiary of his continuous, fatherly investment. Most of those dividends were unknown and unclaimed until we grew up and became aware of our inheritance. We may not have realized until recently how richly gifted we really are!
Our dads may not be perfect; painful though it is, he would be the first to admit it. Neither is he infallible, much to his own disappointment. Neither is he altogether fair, nor always right. But there’s one thing he is always – he is your dad – he is the only one you’ll ever have. Take it from me, when the time comes for gift giving, there’s only one thing he needs. Plain and simple, he needs to hear you say, “Dad, I love you.”
That’s the best gift you can give. If you give him your love, you can forget all the other stuff that comes with a price tag. Nothing you could buy will bring him anywhere near the satisfaction that the four letter gift will provide. As you consider a gift for dad this fathers day, look him in the eye or call him on the phone and give him the gift he needs more than anything.
Give him your love.